as far away as you can,
"I'm doing it for your own good."
"You'll thank me for it later."
life as we DON'T know it
"I'm doing it for your own good."
"You'll thank me for it later."
cunning people are like suicide bombers. they blow themselves up to hell and destroy the lives of people amidst whom they live. almost always, these are the very people who love them most (family/friends).
fortunately, nature has a sense of balance, and tends to favour the innocent. for, although they suffer injuries inflicted by the too-clever people, they are rewarded with wisdom (from the experience) and happiness (wisdom, NOT ignorance, is the actual source of bliss).
and what of the schemers? like all villains of popular fiction, they end up getting their just desserts: friendless, alienated from family, lonely and pitiable.
...oh wait, let me correct myself: they WERE friendless, alienated from family, lonely and pitiable all along. because 'clever' people are too wrapped up in their schemes to notice that they are actually loved and wanted by their family and friends; that they don't need to 'earn' these with their clever plans.
ah, if only people were sensible (not 'clever') enough to realise that being honest to themselves is all it takes to be loved...
...about others are the very qualities we despise in ourselves.
when i read 'of human bondage' by somerset maugham, i felt utter contempt for the protagonist, because he was such a spineless turd. only a masochist could do things like let the woman he loves treat him like dirt (perhaps that isn't the right word, because a masochist ENJOYS getting hurt, while this guy squirms through life lonely, discontented and unfulfilled).
such a loser.
...and then i discovered that everything i hated about him were precisely the things i hated about myself: being shy and trying to please others to the point of personal discomfort, and then philosophising away the injury inflicted upon the self (and feeling noble about it too!).
i hated the book (i still do!).
later, while reading 'peter camenzind' by hermann hesse, 'to a god unknown' or other books by steinbeck or salinger, i felt a strong connection, a feeling of bonhomie towards the protagonist.
upon retrospection, i found that what i actually loved about these books/their characters is that they are a reflection of what i perceived to be good or admirable qualities in me.
somewhere around the middle of 'steppenwolf' (by hermann hesse), the character, who in the beginning is a 'madman', turns into a 'normal' person who no longer feels alienated by society, and enjoys living in the mundane world. i'd stop reading the book at that particular point and put it down. i could no longer 'connect'. i made several attempts to start over from the beginning, but could never continue beyond that point.
then, thinking there was some kind of salvation for the protagonist to go back to 'abnormalcy' by the end of the story (this was hesse, dammit! HE couldn't disappoint me!), i forced myself to read the entire book from start to finish.
the whole exercise took me more than 3 years...but yes, it ended satisfyingly: with a mad ending. i could identify myself again with the not-normal, un-mundane protagonist.
'eye of the beholder' indeed. how true it is that we look at the world as a reflection of ourselves.